Today's post is about dating, dating life to be exact. My dating life, if we really want to be specific.
In September/October, it will have been 2 years since I've been in a relationship. Some people may think that's a long time, others may think it's a short time. According to my record, it's a long time because for the first three years of college, I had a boyfriend/love interest/significant other ever year.
After my last relationship ended, I was content to be single for a while. I needed to focus on myself, my studies, and my relationship with God. And let's face it, I needed to get my shit together. I was good girlfriend material, but I was not good wife material, and the whole point of dating, for me at least, is to find the person I was to spend the rest of my life with.
Well, in the last year and a half, I have learned a lot about myself. I've made mistakes, I've grown in maturity, I've realized that things aren't always about me and how I feel. I've gotten far away from God and then closer to him again. I've spent time learning about marriage and really refining the list of what I'm looking for.
Funny thing about that list: I used to have an actual hard copy list written down of all the qualities I wanted in a man. Now the list is just in my head. I know what I want. Over the years, the list has gotten longer, it's gotten shorter, I've crossed things off or added things back.
I really do know what I'm looking for, and while it scares me to death, I'm believe I am finally ready to start dating again. Now my question is...where are all the men at?
I'm sorry about all of the Sex and the City gifs (no, I'm not), but seriously, how do you begin the process of dating?
I began dating at around 15 or 16 and I've had a few boyfriends in the last 6 years, but I didn't really go around dating to find them. All of them became known to me because we went to high school/college together. Most of them were my friend first before we started dating.
In the last couple of months, I've realized that I'm over "college boys." I want to date men, established, hard working men with a college degrees (and beards and tattoos). Where can these men be found? Or more importantly, how can I be found by these men?
I know I sound completely ridiculous, and most of these questions will go unanswered. But I really do wonder how some people go about dating. It's interesting to me. It's uncharted territory. And it's something I'm ready to explore. I don't want to date every Tom, Dick, and Harry out there. I would like to go on a couple of dates, though.
I'm single, and I'm ready to mingle (with upstanding gentlemen who aren't serial killers).
So, ladies, where were you doing your "mingling" when you found the one?
Linking up with Molly today.