Today, we're getting honest on the blog.
I want to talk about jealousy. Am I the only one who struggles with it? Are there things that I can do to overcome it? What do I do if someone is jealous of me?
Let's evaluate things...
Okay, let's be real, I've never been that jealous of someone, especially if I'm not in a relationship with them. But I do struggle with jealousy often.
I do not get jealous of the things people have, or their accomplishments. I get jealous of relationships. For example, if I have a friend and it looks as though she is spending more time with someone else and less time with me, I will get jealous. The same thing applies when I'm in a dating relationship. If I think my boyfriend is spending more time doing other things and not spending enough time with me, I will get jealous. Hell, I even get jealous if I feel like my family is hanging out together without me!
I wish it wasn't that way, but it is. It is something that I have always struggled with, and it may be something that I continue to struggle with in life. I'll tell you how I've gotten better at it.
When I was younger, and I mean junior high and high school, I used to blame other people for my jealousy. If I was jealous that my friend was spending a lot of time with someone else, then obviously it was her fault for not spending enough time with me . And you're probably thinking that I'm nuts, but that's seriously how I felt.
In the four years since I've been in college, I have matured a lot, especially in this area. I no longer blame other people for my jealousy. It's my hangup. I no longer try to force other people to hang it up. It's mine. When I feel myself getting jealous, I think about things rationally and realize that the time that my friend/boyfriend/parent/sibling is spending with someone else, does not take away from the the relationship that I have with them.
What I've learned is....it's my hangup, so I'll be the one to hang it up. It is something that I can overcome, but it will take time and more maturity. And when someone is jealous of you, it's their hangup so let them be the one to hang it up. However, if you know that someone else is jealous of you, don't be happy about it. Usually, jealousy is a sign that someone is insecure about something or they have an issue that they haven't let go of and that's not something to be happy about.
But if you are going to happy about it (because we know how we are, ladies) don't show it. Let's keep it classy, girls!
Happy hump day!